My first steps towards self-improvement

Hi, you were curious about my first steps to self-improvement? I've kept it short but sweet for you. So sit back and hopefully it will inspire you enough and you might realize that you are not nearly as messed up as you thought. 

Step one: don't be like me. No, seriously, I'm a mess. But hey, that means you can learn from my mistakes, right? And believe me I have made them. Meanwhile, my guardian angel is overworked and in order to give her and myself some peace of mind, I thought it would be better to learn from my made mistakes and take them for granted. They have been made and I can't turn back the only thing I can do now is take better care of myself and make sure I don't make the same mistakes again. In short learn from your mistakes and try to do a little better from now on. 

Step two: laugh at yourself. I mean, if you can't laugh at the chaos in your life, what's left? A lot of stress and frustration, I can tell you. So, just laugh at the absurdity of life and move on. Of course, this does not mean that you have to laugh at literally everything because sometimes you are in a situation that just sucks and makes you angry or sad, in that case, if you want or need to, you can just ugly cry until you are sticky with snot and stinking with sweat, and you should do this without shame because we are humans and we have feelings and everyone deals with them in his or her own way, just let go of your emotions for a while. But not so loose as to harm people or yourself *wink* do it alone at home or invite someone over and have a good cry together. And when you're done crying and you've pulled yourself together, straightened out your crown, relieved and feeling better, take a long hot shower "Because self-care is the best care" and go to bed early, when you get up the next day, make a nice breakfast and enjoy the nice things in your life that make you happy and don't let your problems, difficult situations or people who try to make your life miserable take over because life is just too short for that. Count your blessings and you will see that your life is not nearly as messy as you thought. 

Step three: surround yourself with positive people. People who you feel genuinely have the right intentions for you. Unless, of course, you love drama and negativity, then you should mostly continue to deal with that one friend who is always complaining about everything and everyone, have to keep working for that boss what thinks you are a programmed robot that sits at the charger just like a vacuum cleaner waiting to push start, or have to keep waiting for that one guy you are so crazy about to finally realize that you really are the only one for him and you can finally have your dream relationship. But if you want to be a little happier, find people who give you energy instead of sucking it away and above all do what you feel good about, nothing or no one has the right to determine your happiness and in the end you have to live your life so avoid the people who treat you as 2nd choice as much as you can and you will see that peace will find its way to you and there will be more space to develop yourself and you will start to feel better, you will laugh at the tears you once shed and people will start to regret that they ever treated you wrong.

And finally, step four: don't be afraid to ask for help. Yes, even to a sarcastic life coach like me. Whether it's helpful to follow my advice I can't promise you because even I still need help sometimes, rather I still have help! I will share more about that at a later. But whether it's from my boyfriend to cook and help with the household or if I notice that my triggers are acting up again and I need to get back to what I learned in previous therapies. Or if you've never had therapy like I did several years ago, make an appointment with your doctor and ask for help. There is really no need to be ashamed of this because maybe the doctor just looked at a moldy toenail for you and prescribed an ointment for it. They really do go through more so you don't have to be ashamed of your mental problems. And about that advice I can give you: that is the only thing I can do and will do, I don't have the resources to help you with your problem you will have to ask professional help for that I only try here to motivate and inspire people with my advice to look at themselves and ask for help if necessary because I want to break the taboo of having mental problems, nothing more than that.

So there you have it, my first steps toward self-improvement. I hope you get some use out of it and if not, just forward it to someone who can use it better than you. Even then, my advice has been good for something. Do follow my advice at your own risk, but hey, it can't get any worse than it already is, right?

Good luck and Namaste with an attitude!